We can share a home, plans, and our most personal fears with someone, yet still struggle to find the words to talk about sex. What feels good? What would we like to change? How can we express uncertainty without making the conversation sound like criticism?
The fact that we talk about intimacy tells us little about what those conversations are actually like. We might discuss it frequently, but with discomfort and defensive responses. We might talk less often, yet still have room to express our feelings honestly.